The Puddi Effect - The Power of Discovery
How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.
You will hear some Relationship Experts & Dating Coaches telling you to ask your partner why he/she decided to break up with his ex so that you may know or understand if you're not going to be the victim of his past.What is 'The PuddiEffect' and its Symptoms?
The PuddiEffect is the effect that comes from three things: relationships with others, Family, and the situation that surrounds you. What characterizes the 'Puddieffect. is that all three of these are problematic, and unsuccessfully to you, which led to loneliness(depression) that leads to drowning in something(work) without caring again for others.
In human nature, one of the things that bother him is feeling alone. There are times when this person gets lonely (depression) which makes him put his life on another person he is close to. But even if he feels that he would put his rest in another person, that person also has other problems in life. Now when the two share that life, and each one wants the happiness of life differently from his partner, that causes the second person to leave others in order to find what they want elsewhere. That is the First step that leaves people with heartbreak and life begins to include loneliness. because they can no longer trust a friend.
Even if that friend is gone, the only thing left is Family.
But in families, there are times when you face different problems, things that don't match your beliefs and your principles. this leads to the Second Step which is to separate themself from other people.
Third Step. When they lose refuge in friends and in families, the only thing left is that they pull out answers from other people which ends up leading to the solution for themselves. In that case, many find the solution in a certain work that they are willing to do (this is where you will hear people who have been creating crazy inventions that have benefited humanity), but even though they do that work, they already have a mental illness of loneliness(depression) in them. The anger and not normally socializing helps them to progress in their work. Because at that time all the stress they had on other things, the focus stays on the work they are doing or other things like domestic animals.
How do they discover the work they do? it including to solve the current problems in society, talent, or skills.
How The 'PuddiEffect' Affect Others:
People, we love or we're attracted to people who live their lives with their principles, (we are not talking about money here). We are talking about people's security feelings. A good example you'll hear is that girls are attracted to Bad guys instead of nice guys.
so Where PuddiEffect goes wrong is here:
First, Those who look at you the way you are, also start to feel for you and fall in love with you. But because of the things you went through, You also cause and affect them the same pain that you went through. How does it go? those people who are still weak in their emotions with soft hearts will come to meet you as a person to lean on because they will see you as a strong person. But because you didn't get the life you wanted from the first person you loved and needed as a friend, then those people who are coming closer to you, will not get what they expect from you.
That is how you will find many who accept the loss of friends who want to give them their time and possibly love, but they accept to let it go, this is how it becomes a repeating cycle. the one whom they forsook also goes and does it to others and the other will do it to others.
All of this is because you have lived alone, which makes you build a life without anyone other than you, your work, and maybe other domestic animals, like dogs, and cats.
Positive Effect:
Includes more productivity in your work, self-control, and more...
Really life is short, we have a short amount of time according to all the things we have to deal with in our life including studying, building relationships with people and God, taking care of families, participating in government activities, jobs, resting, and so on. so you'll find that most of what takes our time is related to people, not only from the outside but also from within the family.
When the Puddi effect affects you, the energy you used to put into relationships with others starts to decrease or fall away. You end up using it for other purposes. In one way or another, I connect my research with Napolean Hill in his book Think and Grow Rich in Chapter 11: The Mystery of Sex Transmutation. For those who don't understand this term, Sexual transmutation is taking the sexual energy that's building inside you and channeling it into something else.
What I'm trying to say is that it helps to be more productive in what you do, because that's where your focus and desire are.
Negative Effect:
Different mental illnesses include depression, self-denial, lack of self-confidence about your Good presence in others' life.
Jobs who often sacrificed his family to achieve success in business, in the end, his last words were:
"I have little joy. At this moment, lying on my bed and recalling my life, I realize that all the recognition and wealth that I took so much pride in have paled and become meaningless in the face of my death.
You can employ someone to drive the car for you and make money for you, but you cannot have someone bear your sickness for you. Treasure love for your family, love for your spouse, and love for your friends. Treat yourself well and cherish others."
Written By ISHEMA Toussaint, 9 November 2022
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